We all have a fear.
Spiders, flying, public speaking…the list goes on. Fear can scare the crap out of you. Fear can make you feel sick to your stomach. Fear can be and is very real.
Think back to the last time you truly feared doing something. Were you taking on a new project at work? Were you getting ready to start a new fitness journey? For me, my biggest fear was being recorded on video talking about health & fitness.
Fear is self-created, meaning it’s something you create in your own mind
Think about that statement for a second. Is your fear of “_____” self-created in your mind?
There is one fear that you have that is truly preventing you from reaching your full potential. The ‘fear of failure or the thought of failing‘ is the number one reason you have been afraid to step outside of your comfort zone.
When I was in my third year of university, I knew I had to get in better shape and lose weight. The fear of failing and not achieving my goals scared the crap out of me, to the point where I didn’t even want to take action. I didn’t want to fail my friends, let my family down and ultimately, I didn’t want to fail myself. This self-limiting belief was so powerful and real that the thought of failure prevented me from making any progress. The thought of failure was so real that I was too scared to even take a step in the right direction.
We live in a time where we are judged by our failures. We have grown up in a world where failure is perceived as a negative, therefore we avoid putting ourselves in situations where failure is a possibility.
Do you want to overcome your fear of failing? Here is how you can start:
1) Tell yourself you have control over your fears – If fear is self-created, it can also be self-destroyed.
2) Ask yourself why the thought of failure has kept you back – Was this shaped by a past experience? Did someone tell you that you will be judged if you fail?
3) Change your mindset – The first step is believing in your heart and in your mind that you can conquer your fear. If you don’t truly believe that you can combat your fear, you never will.
4) See failure as an opportunity – Facing and experiencing failure can only results in two outcomes: 1) you end up overcoming your fear or 2) you grow, learn and become a stronger individual. It’s a win-win situation.
5) Look for mentors – They don’t need to be in-person mentors either! Mentors can be found in books, online or anywhere else if you look deep enough. I have many mentors in my life and some of them don’t even know it (Chris, Kate, Mark – to name a few). Find people that you look up to and emulate their actions.
We all have fears.
The fear of failure is one of the strongest fears you will experience throughout your life. It has the ability to prevent you from taking action and getting started. The sooner you recognize your fears and create a plan to attack them, the quicker you will experience success.
Let me ask you; what fear is holding you back from living your dreams? I look forward to your comments below!
Karan Nijhawan is a professional fitness coach, helping entrepreneurs and businesses professionals improve their health & fitness by exercising at home. He’s the Founder of Fit Opportunity, fitness blogger on The Huffington Post and is passionate about helping others achieve their fitness potential.